Posted by Dr. Bob on December 14, 2005, at 10:33:56
In reply to Re: Allisonross » Dinah, posted by allisonross on December 11, 2005, at 9:49:12
> As a child, I fought back constantly agains the abuse. I asked my sister "why was I the scapegoat?" She said: "Because you would never shut up!"
I'm not saying you should shut up, but I do wonder if you're becoming a scapegoat here...
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> > > Perhaps I will decide to stay, to just see how many other tornadoes I can cause!
> > >
> > > Just jokin' everyone, just jokin here!!
> >
> > I understand that was a joke. But I wonder why you chose to make it.
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> See, this is more criticism...Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused. Referring to their posts as criticism could lead them to feel accused of being critical. It tends to be more civil to talk about how you feel than what someone else did. For example, use an I-statement like "I feel criticized". For more about the wording of I-statements, see:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040112/msgs/320097.html
Follow-ups regarding civility should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
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