Posted by happyflower on December 12, 2005, at 9:25:11
In reply to Re: But what really hurt was her words, lack of lo » happyflower, posted by Dinah on December 12, 2005, at 8:55:38
Thanks Dinah,
My dad was the better of the two, but he too was guily of neglect, but he didn't pysically abuse me. He was from the old fashioned school of dicipline where he would spank if you did something bad. Even though he did take it too far with my brother (who was a handful), he never hurt me physically like leaving bruises. I was too scared to do anything wrong, so normally I didn't even get spanked.I remember him telling me about 3 times that he loved me and he hugged me those 3 times but other than that, there was no outward showing of love. My mom never told me I was loved or hugged me. So he mostly neglected my needs(like clothing and food). I can't say that I was close to him, I didn't know how. But I do remember seeing pictures of me sitting on his lap smiling, so there must be some happy memories some where.
I remember one summer where he took me alone fishing, and we caught a ton of fish at dusk and it was so dark, it was hard to find where to get off this lake. It was a nice memory. There is very little good memories concerning my family life growing up, but a have a few of my dad.I do miss my dad a little, he died about 5 years ago this Christmas. He was good with my kids. His family is very somewhat normal, if there is such a thing. Thanks Dinah for asking. :)
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