Posted by allisonross on December 11, 2005, at 23:30:56
In reply to More sh*t, more abuse triggers, posted by happyflower on December 11, 2005, at 16:24:08
> My T said last week most people think he is a nice guy, I cringe when he says that.
((Happyflower)))))
EVERYBODY said that about my ex. He is an abuser, narcissist, cruel personality-disordered "person."
"Abusers are masters at deception." After all, they usually only abuse in private. I always wondered why people think they know another person. Do people think jerks/abusers, etc. walk around with fangs and dragging their knuckles on the ground? No...they look like everyone else.
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> My mom worked in the school as a teachers aid in my brothers special ed class. Well all I ever heard from teachers and kids was how nice my mom was.I hear it now. They have NO idea.
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> I married what I thought was the nicest person who everyone likes, who has a lot of compassion and caring for people. Well now another "nice" person has hurt me badly. And I always thought he was nicer and more compasionate than me and I thought he would never hurt me. I was wrong.
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> How can I ever trust "nice " people. I hate my T says people thinks he is nice. But he admitted to me also that he has been an *sshole too, so that makes me feel better.
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> Another topic for discussion in therapy, should I tell my T I hate it when he says people thinks he is a nice guy?Say whatever you think/makes you feel better.
> I think my T sex trigger posts are much more fun than these last two. Don't ya think?
Yah, let's get back to that, LOL, LOL
My heart goes out to you....I do understand some of what you are feeling.
Love n hugs, PIC, Ally
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