Posted by happyflower on October 21, 2005, at 20:19:25
In reply to Re: Confused, need some advice, please help please » happyflower, posted by JenStar on October 21, 2005, at 19:29:01
> hi happyflower,
> I enjoy reading your posts, short or long!
Thanks! :)
> hmmmmm...it does sound like he has interest in you beyond the therapeutic relationship. Whether it's romantic, friendly, or something in-between is hard to say. But it's DEFINITELY more than the typical client!Okay, thanks for seeing this. I just didn't know if I was reading too much into what he is doing and saying. Thanks for validating what I am thinking.
> If it were up to you to decide what happens, what do you most want out of this situation? I know he's cute and attractive, but I believe you've also said that you don't want him to interfere in your "real" life and "real" relationships. Would you want something to happen with him? If something DID happen, what would happen with therapy and with your family life?Okay, if it was up to me, I would end my unhappy marriage. Start dating others including my T only if he left his wife, for a least a year or more. Then I would take my time on getting to know him on that level. Then I guess I would take it from there. As far as therapy goes, I am almost done with that, and If I need more, then I would go to another one. I think my T has helped me with the most difficult things that has hurt me in my life. I really think I am healed from all of that stuff and honesty, I think I can handle anything else that comes my way currently on my own. Yes, my kids would be hurt if their dad moved out. They would miss him really bad, and it would something to work on with them. But right now they are seeing their parents not happy with each other at all.
Our bad relationship is affecting them in a bad way right now. It is sad, I try not to let it happen, but they see right through it.> Would you be OK with him attending a concert?
Yes, I would be flattered! LOL He warned me that me might dance in the asies and sing, go trumpets, play that music! LOL He even did the (very bad) dance for me! LOL
> take care and good luck,
Thanks Jen for your support. I am feeling so much better tonight! :)
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