Posted by Dinah on October 21, 2005, at 17:43:30
In reply to Confused, need some advice, please help please, posted by happyflower on October 21, 2005, at 14:25:15
I'd be upfront and tell him what you've noticed and ask him what it means. It'll put a damper on the romantic aspect of it, but maybe a damper needs to be put. If I remember, your marriage is troubled, you're attracted to your therapist. And now he's giving signs that he's attracted back.
Yes, it sounds as if he's attracted back.
But now what? If he acts on it, he risks his license, and hopefully his self respect. And you lose an important therapeutic relationship that's supposed to help you sort out your marriage, not add more confusion.
My therapist put a few toes over the line, not romantically, but as someone who needs help. And it was hard but I'm calling him on it, or at least the more flagrant toe crossings. The ones that make me feel uncomfortable. The ones I like are a little harder to enforce. But those boundaries are there for a reason. Even after you don't need him as a therapist anymore.
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