Posted by orchid on October 21, 2005, at 16:36:11
In reply to Re: Confused, need some advice, please help please » orchid, posted by happyflower on October 21, 2005, at 16:18:32
What people call as romantic love nowadyas is not really romantic love. It is also only projection and infatuation for the most part. That is why after a year or two the love dies down when you realize what the other person really is.
Real love comes when you see the other person for what he/she really is fully, acknowledge their good things and bad things with full heart, and yet you like the person.
That said, what happens between a T and a client is different from what happens between a man and a woman to a significant extent. The interactions and feelings might be similiar, but the degree of inequality is what makes it different. Plus the fact that for you, there is one T. But for the T there are many patients. This is one of the major differences. A man in a normal world doesn't talk to 20 women in the same level of intensity in a week. Whereas a T does. Don't you think that makes it very different? Plus he knows all about you, your weakness, your strength etc, but you don't know that much about him. You see only his best parts. But he sees both your best and the worst parts.
Plus you pay. That is a huge difference. With real love, you don't pay the other person for listening to you and caring for you and spending some time with you.
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