Posted by happyflower on October 21, 2005, at 21:11:16
In reply to Re: Confused, need some advice, please help please » happyflower, posted by daisym on October 21, 2005, at 20:34:48
> I'm late to this thread though I have been reading. I guess I just want to add that it seems perfectly reasonable to feel how you are feeling: my therapist likes to say, "who wouldn't want to feel special?" And you know what? He does say he cares about me, that he worries and that what I feel for him is OK and special. And he says he is flattered and touched. And he does all this in a way that doesn't send me any mixed messages. I think I heard it described once (Lott?) as a hot house flower -- therapy love can survive only in the consulting room, but with in this setting it is a very beautiful thing indeed.
It is nice that your T can be honest about what he feels about you and even tell you. I feel like my T has conflicting feelings for me. I don't know if my T is sending mixed messages or not, or maybe I am just reading them that way because I am attracted to him.
> What does your husband think about your therapist coming to the concert? I'm not sure mine would like it.
I told my DH that he was my T might come. I don't know how he feels about it because honestly we haven't had a conversation in months about anything important. He mentioned once that he thought my T had a thing for me, but he has also said that about my trumpet teacher too, and other guys I come into contact with like my allergist.
I told my trumpet teacher, and he was impressed, he said his T would never come to on of his concerts. LOL
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