Posted by Tamar on September 19, 2005, at 10:49:37
In reply to Re:my love for T., posted by bird in the sky on September 17, 2005, at 23:14:16
Ahhh, it’s hard, isn’t it? I remember the feeling very well. In fact, I still feel it sometimes, and I haven’t seen my therapist in six months. I suppose one thing you can do is enjoy the horniness! But it can be so frustrating as well…
Have you talked to him about it? I discovered that some of the fantasies I had about my therapist were closely connected to the problems we were working on. When I realised the connections it made the fantasies more bearable.
From what I’ve heard, talking about it therapy does help to get it in perspective (though I have to admit I never talked about it directly; I just dropped enormous hints and hoped he would pick up on it).
If you’ve told him, I think the best thing is to keep talking about it.
If you haven’t told him… do you think you can?
One other thing… I was wondering whether your masturbating before a session might actually increase your desire for him rather than taking the edge off it. If it were me, I think I would be in a worse state if I went in there all post-orgasmic. But that’s just my perspective; you know yourself best!
Tamar
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