Posted by fairywings on September 10, 2005, at 9:06:58
In reply to Re: Talking about sex (again!) » fairywings, posted by daisym on September 10, 2005, at 0:06:25
Hi daisy,
When i asked i was thinking that I would guess we all go into therapy thinking that we're beyond thinking we'd ever fall for our T, and that even if we started to feel that way, we could overcome it somehow, but it seems like it's a normal progression, and one that can't be helped. I don't want it to happen this time, I hope it doesn't. It seems to tiring, like it would take too much energy, be too consuming, and take too much away from other things. I just really don't want it.
Your T sounds like someone i'd be attracted to, so i'd have to probably not go to him knowing right off i'd be attracted to him! LOL but he does sound really wonderful, and like he's so good to work with, and i know that's what it's all about, so the physical stuff shouldn't be what's considered when you're looking for someone.
It's interesting to me that you said there have been times when you've wanted to push through therapy. I think that's my feeling right now. Let's just get this messy stuff over with, and be done with it. There are times when I'm amazed at the things you even think of because I don't consider them, like even wondering what to expect, or the type of therapy. I have no idea what to expect. gives me foder for thought.
I have absolutely no attraction to my T what so ever. He's very nice, very kind, very sweet, and I'm thinking, this is someone I won't feel an attraction to, and I can just do the therapy thing, and get on with this. Heck I don't even know if he's straight! LOL Could be, maybe not, I don't know. Can't guess how tall, I don't pay attention. Shorter than 6', for sure. He has dark hair, some grey, full beard, bleh, and a trim body. I did notice he looks good in jeans, because I think when a guy looks good in jeans, he looks good in jeans! and i do like a guy who looks good in jeans. My hubby does. My Ts voice isn't anything special. He does get very passionate about issues he feels strongly about, which is nice, and he's sure not afraid to tell you what he thinks, but he's never rude, mean, inconsiderate, or anything remotely like that. It's just that he's honest and doesn't beat around the bush. At this point I don't know him well enough to know anything personal, but I'd guess he travels - has lots of stuff in his office that would point to that, and has tons of psych type books. He does have a dog, a very nice dog! ; )
Thanks for your honesty, i appreciate your thoughts.
fw
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