Posted by alexandra_k on August 25, 2005, at 20:00:32
In reply to Re: If it were next session, posted by alexandra_k on August 25, 2005, at 19:36:46
>>I've lost Bunty, I've lost Harry, I've lost Daddy. I've lost one best friend to death, another to moving. If I get better and don't need him I'll lose the last thing that's important to me. If I even need him less or with less intensity, I'll be losing the last thing that's important to me.
>If you get better... Then I don't think you will view it as a loss. Or, even if you do appreciate that you are losing some things you will also appreciate that you are gaining some other things and so the loss won't feel so bad.
Sorry - I didn't appreciate how bad that might sound. I did NOT mean to imply that you won't view the deaths of those as a significant loss. I was meaning to be talking about if you no longer felt such adoration for your t...
Those other people / pets...
Loss is hard.
Really hard.
And I don't want to undermine that.
But... Its not the end of the world
Of your world
Time moves on...
Other attachments emerge.
And we always remember those who have gone
And they are irreplacable in a sense
But the connection
The sense of connection
Is something that we can feel for others too
And so it is not that when one person / pet goes that our life is not worth living anymore because we will never have the opportunity to feel that connection again
Or at least... It doesn't have to be that way.
And if it is that way...Well...
I feel sad about that.
:-(
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