Posted by alexandra_k on August 25, 2005, at 15:13:15
In reply to Re: If it were next session, posted by Dinah on August 24, 2005, at 20:47:34
> I never think of myself as being intense. I always think of myself as being cerebral. Do I seem intense here?
Sometimes you can be fairly intense. AKA emotional you can be fairly intense...
> > But what about you? Isn't it better for you to not mind (or at least not feel so very upset) about his leaving town? Isn't it better for you to not feel like you need to call between sessions?> No, it's not.
Hmm...
I'm thinking autonomy vs paternalism. How much do you know whats best for you vs how much your t does... How much it is healthy for you to feel so dependent on certain people. I guess what I think is that you have talked before about SI if anything were to happen to your t. Do you think that is healthy? It is healthy to feel like your life is so dependent on another? And I think you feel hurt (about things being unrequited) at times. WAY hurt. Wouldn't you rather not feel hurt?
> It makes me want to do terrible things to show him that it's what I think that's important.(((Dinah)))
It might be worth talking about it. Saying that you need to believe that he HEARS what you are saying about this stuff at the very least... But I would say maybe to just aim for that rather than treating agreement as a criterion for understanding....
What is it about adoration?And why particular people? I mean... There have been a few individuals in your life that you have felt this way about. One goes... Another comes along. If you lose your t, then someone else will probably come along.
I am not sure that I understand very well...
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