Posted by LauraBeane on August 22, 2005, at 16:31:51
In reply to Need and attachment, posted by Dinah on August 21, 2005, at 10:11:26
Hi Dinah, please forgive me for barging in. I just thought I would suggest that, as distasteful or useless as it may seem, it may be incredibly important that you continue to discuss/argue about this with him. Even if you know you will never change his mind, even though you dislike arguing with people you love. Talking/arguing about it will at the very least keep him engaged in this issue that is so crucial to you. Even if you don't flip him, he will have to take pause.
Do you think he might possibly feel that you two were at an impasse prior to this shift in your therapeutic relationship. You know how therapists hate The Impasse. They like to Move, even just a tiny bit. But I don't see why he can't understand. You verbalize it so well in your post. You speak for a lot of us who pick at that tangled knot -- I don't want to get better, I want to stay here, why can't I stay? And yet for me at least, I can't live the way I was before I went into therapy. That's why I sought him out.
You have every right to those feelings. It is such a quandry.
I am sorry you're feeling such distress right now.
LB
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