Posted by gardenergirl on June 27, 2005, at 18:11:57
In reply to Re: GG, how exactly did you ask for twice a week? (nm) » gardenergirl, posted by Jazzed on June 27, 2005, at 8:08:19
Hmmm, I'm not sure I can remember now. I brought it up once a long time ago, as just a concept I had been thinking about. More recently, I brought it up as a possibility. We spent several sessions (not entire, but some each time) talking about the pros and cons of doing this. At one point I told him I always felt like he was warning me off from it when he talked about the risks, etc. He found this intriguing, and actually thought I had said "warding me off". So we talked about how deepening the relationship can be anxiety-provoking for the T, too.
I asked him more recently what he might have been anxious about, and he of course turned it around and asked me what I was worried he was anxious about. Gah! I never did find out.
At any rate, we decided to go ahead with it--that it would be helpful. It was very hard at first. I was very self-conscious, like I was "supposed" to talk about certain things. I eventually relaxed, and it feels more normal now.
Long answer. sorry.
I should add that I am fortunate in that there are no financial implications to increasing frequency for me since I get counseling as part of my tuition.
gg
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