Posted by Jen Star on June 26, 2005, at 10:17:33
In reply to T comment about Babble, posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2005, at 23:39:45
hi gg,
I think you should be a "good GG" and focus on that. "Good CLIENT" is only secondary and is important only insofar as it relates back to you and your needs.You should ( I think! ) work on satisfying yourself and your needs, not his. Maybe it does bleed off transference, but wouldn't also talking to a mom, a close group of girlfriends over lunch, or a trusted spouse? I think therapy should not have to be done in a vacuum of YOU+T. The therapy world should be as big and as various as YOU need it to be to get maximum benefit. I too enjoy hearing lots of different insights and responses to questions & dilemmas. It helps me focus and think of new paths of insight.
Of course part of me is talking selfishly here, because I enjoy your posts here! And I would hate to lose them. However, I also really do believe you should do what's right for yOU. If that means not sharing things, then you should hold back. But don't do it for HIM or to be called a good client. I think therapy is different for everyone, and progress can be made whether there is expansive transference of not.
Anyway, good luck! It sounds like there might be a very interesting discussion with T coming up....questions about how much transference he wants from you, and why, and whether you two couldn't work just as well without it...take care,
JenStar
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