Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2005, at 19:46:06
In reply to Re: Seems ironic » Dinah, posted by Jazzed on June 20, 2005, at 16:27:11
We talked about it when it came up. I told him that he had done a wonderful job of telling me that he cared enough about me not to abandon me. But that he had also told me a couple of other things. One of which was that he was looking for another job, and one day I'd come and find everything had changed.
We've talked about this not too long ago, also ironically. He was trying to tell me that the relationship carried the same risks on both sides. That I might have to move for work reasons just as he might. And I explained that a) it wouldn't happen and b) if it did, I'd have thoroughly agonized over possibilities with him and he'd know it was happening. While if you're the client things happen without you knowing it and you're inevitably surprised by it.
I brought it up again last session, and the conclusion was that it wasn't an ideal situation but that it was the only possible one. That he didn't think it was fair to scare me with possible situations that might not occur. And that I wouldn't have worked so hard had I known he was applying for a job out of town. So he wasn't going to tell me about things that were only possibilities.
So I am left to wonder when the next shoe will drop.
Being a client s*cks. I don't care what he says, he's got all the power.
We did talk about him and job plans. He says he's not actively seeking a full time job, but he does sometimes wish for more security. So while he's not actively looking (in part because appropriate jobs are scarce) he probably would be happy if he ran across a good possibility.
I can't see relying on him too much. I need to wean myself.
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