Posted by Dinah on May 19, 2005, at 4:26:49
In reply to Re: Loss » Dinah, posted by daisym on May 19, 2005, at 0:46:52
> I hope your day is better tomorrow. Loss sucks. Plain and simple.
Thanks, Daisy. :) It does.
> When I went to work this morning, my assistant, my best friend, wasn't there. And I was done. The loss of this everyday support was too much and I've been pretending that it would be OK; different but OK.
Good heavens, yes. I'm sorry to have forgotten. I was half asleep yesterday. Of *course* loss would be coming up in your mind. Loss sucks, even for bosses required to make impossible choices.
> He wanted to work on ways to make it easier -- I just wanted to be upset with him about it. So he let me.
Oh, that was so nice of him. Mine tries to "fix" occasionally, but usually understands if I'm not quite ready for that. It's harder for him to do if it involves him. Defensiveness is one of my therapist's ongoing struggles, I think. :)
Mine's going on vacation too, *maybe*. As usual, I won't know till the week ahead of time most likely. Or maybe I'll know Friday, which would be a week and one day ahead of time. He'll be gone the week before the Babble trip, ending on the third. I'm hoping he won't change it to the week after the Babble trip. That would just drip (as usual) with bad timing for his vacation.
Sigh. We didn't discuss that, but it might have played a role in my anger.
I did mention that the pastor's speech reminded me of his pep talks before his vacation. Seeing the positive aspects of coping, etc. I told him to quit that. :)
Sigh. When's yours going? Can we be angry together?
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