Posted by sunny10 on May 18, 2005, at 8:28:42
In reply to Re: Loss » sunny10, posted by Dinah on May 17, 2005, at 19:51:37
that's just more disassociation and denial...
I make it to work- I breathe in and out.
I don't really have much energy to post for others right now, but I DO think that someone in this thread (I think maybe Tamar, but I am just so scattered lately) mentioned that maybe you have been triggered simply because it DOES sound like the pastor was extremely glib about a major change in your community.
And there's nothing that hurts more than not having our feelings validated. It feels like we don't matter- and we begin to rehash the past to look for memories of simpler times to make ourselves feel content. Problem with depression is that when we look back for simpler times, we wind up focussing on the negative aspects, not the positive ones.
For you, that is loss. For others it is abuse, yet others it is neglect, and so on. For me, well, lately, it is all of the above.
Can you forgive the pastor for being so glib and forgive yourself for pulling up past hurts?
Maybe then you will feel some peace over this situation.
And maybe I'm just talking out of my b*tt as usual...
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