Posted by Shortelise on May 16, 2005, at 12:34:55
In reply to it's out and i feel worse. ****BIG TRIGGER****, posted by B2chica on May 16, 2005, at 11:27:05
My T has said before that something is common, and I felt the same way, like oh, then I am supposed to be ok with it???
There's not much I can add to what gg said. No, it was not ok for anyone to hurt you. No, you should not expect yourself to be "ok" with it.
I am sorry for your shame. It's bad enough that you were hurt back then, butto have to carry shame about it is, to me, the very worst. Why, Chica, why oh why should you feel shame for something you could not control?? That too is so common. We carry this shame around, at times a heavier burden than the secret.
May I make a suggestion? Could you think about how you would have liked your T to react? What you need from him?
For you I send a soft, warm chair. It's a big, cozy, chair with soft pillows, the kind you sink into and that hold you on all sides. You can curl into it comfortably. From this chair you an see out a window into a pasture. The sun is shining and there are swallows flying. You are warm and safe, inside and out. If you like, I can sit with you, on the arm of the chair, and we can sit in the quiet together.
You know Chica, what happened to you was wrong. You didn't deserve it. You didn't "ask" for it. I am so so sorry.
ShortE
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