Posted by Tamar on May 2, 2005, at 14:44:56
In reply to Klonopin and nap later » Tamar, posted by Dinah on May 2, 2005, at 13:57:40
> I no longer feel like I'm about to have a stroke. But I'm left with an awful migraine.
Oh dear! I hope your head feels under less pressure soon.
> I'm sorry for the outburst.
No need to apologise! Outbursts are sometimes necessary, and possibly good for you.
> It's the difference between little girl "flowers" and what women have that's at issue. They really are different, you know. I called him before my nap and left a message for him to try to brush up on his anatomy lessons before tomorrow.
Yes, they are quite different, and I’m amazed at how little is generally known about the differences. (Little boys are also quite different from adult men; it’s not all about extra hair.)
> He kept doing reality testing, like I wouldn't notice. :(Maybe you should test *his* grasp of reality!
> I know my thinking is distorted because what I see when I see a woman isn't even anatomically possible.Are you willing or able to explain how you see a woman, and how it’s not anatomically possible?
> But he's missing the point, and I'm totally incapable of finding the words to make the point.
Maybe he’s thinking in Freudian terms: that whole penis envy thing. Or maybe he doesn’t know enough about female anatomy to understand your point.
> I think there's a female sex therapist in the area. If things reach an impasse, and they continue to feel as very important as they do, maybe she'd be willing to do a consult or something.That sounds like a good idea.
> I know that maybe I expect him to understand too much. But reasonably on target questions isn't too much to expect, is it?It probably depends on his outlook and experience. But yes, it would be nice if he asked you questions that would actually help instead of alienating you.
Did he ask you whether you feel this way about other women, or just yourself?
Did he ask you whether your own anatomy feels like an imposition, or an unwanted gift, or something like that?
Did he ask you which sensations scare you: how it looks, how it feels, how it smells, how it sounds?
Did he ask you whether what you have is safer than what an adult woman has?
That’s what I would have asked. But maybe I’m off the mark too.I hope your migraine is short-lived. It sounds as if all this is causing you much anxiety and frustration. But if you can bear to keep addressing it, I’m sure you’ll find the outcome rewarding.
Tamar
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