Posted by Dinah on May 1, 2005, at 8:54:48
In reply to I wish things weren't so hard, posted by daisym on April 30, 2005, at 23:43:20
Someone told me, I think it was my therapist, that losing someone you love isn't just one loss. It's a bunch of losses along the way. Because when people are dying they often change in such a way that we lose pieces of them at a time.
Losing Daddy was so hard. I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a husband and the father of your children.
Do you think there's any tie in to the fresh prospect of losing your husband forever, and the desire to avoid your therapist? I found myself feeling so disconnected from my therapist, and he said that was natural. That when we experience one loss, there is a primitive part of us that wants to protect us from other possible losses by walling ourselves off.
And of course, anger is more than perfectly justified. Anger at everyone and everything.
I wish life wasn't being so hard on you, Daisy.
poster:Dinah
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