Posted by pinkeye on March 6, 2005, at 12:33:44
In reply to Re: Losing Control, posted by Susan47 on March 6, 2005, at 11:51:30
It is very humanly impossible for any person to carry on other's burdens - even if it is a therapist and highly qualified. They can only help you see things differently, but they cannot carry our load themselves. if they do that, they will collapse.. And that is not the way God designed this world. All of us have to carry our burdens by ourselves, and maximum we can do, is lean on someone for a little while..
People can help us, but they cannot really feel the pain that we are going through. I realized that with my medical condition. As much as a person loves me, they cannot take the pain away from me, and they cannot feel the pain for me. Only God can go to that extent of feeling the pain for me - not any human. That is why I developed a trust in God and that helped me see things in a different light. I tried to lean more on God and less on other humans, because everyone around is me as suffering as me.
So you have to help yourselves the best. Try to lighten the load as much as possible for the person who is trying to help you, and you will be successful. In ohter words, try to help the person who is helping you and that will help you more. Treat your therapist more gently than you would treat a baby, and go beyond your capability to help them help you, because they are sticking out everything to help you. Even if they are trained, they are basically just human beings, and nobody is that strong in this world. In all likelihood, they are just as frail as you are, and as weak and as troubled with perhaps even more issues. Only that they offer to go beyond themselves to help other people through inspite of their weakness and pain in their personal lives.
If it sounds little preaching, do forgive me for the choice of words. I don't know how to word it in a better way. And little preaching won't hurt anyway. Sometimes we all need that.
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