Posted by 10derHeart on February 1, 2005, at 20:25:41
In reply to Re: To Tell or Not to Tell New T.(long), posted by Dinah on February 1, 2005, at 8:58:00
I hadn't thought of that really. Having a bad outcome, I mean. Probably because old T. (and I recently found out in 16+ years he's never had any experience with the stuff I was doing last year) handled it so maturely and gently, I'm more than a bit spoiled. Hmmm. Although, because new T. would *know* I don't feel attached, or missing him or wanting to do anything to be sure he'll still be there, he certainly would have no reason to be worried. And if he really was, well, I'd encourage him to call old T. and talk to him about this. Really, I would. Because he trusted me implicitly and has said that's why he "got over" any discomfort or concern for safety or "line crossing." Because he came to know my integrity about this area - that I felt it transcended the rest of therapy, and once told, had to be 100% told - and it was. He knows every single regressive, toddler-separating-doing rapprochement-over-again thing I ever did. In all the yucky details. That's what made it so okay for us both.
You're right. It all comes down to the gut. I just need to feel a bit more connected first. Could happen any time, I guess. New relationships are exhausting sometimes. Thanks a lot, Dinah.
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