Posted by 64bowtie on January 29, 2005, at 11:06:03
In reply to My fault I guess, posted by Dinah on January 29, 2005, at 7:27:46
(((Dinah))),
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> The worm part was because more and more I'm feeling trapped, angry, and frustrated in my life because my pathological need for stability leaves me with very few real choices.
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> That's why I think I'm a spineless mealworm just reacting to what's going on around me and too afraid to move. Perhaps my old shell-less skinless slug writhing in the heat but unable to get off the sidewalk is a better analogy.>
><<< I hear you acting responsibly for your failures as you see them. That's OK with me if you see that as a worthwhile stategy guarantee yourself "a life" out of all of this. But I expect not.
I don't hear anyone at Babble, especially me even under my breath, accuse you of ever being a spineless anything. We all, to a person, report that we recogize and appreciate your power (ability to make a 'differnce') and strength (ability to withstand the 'whatever'). So, even through all your openness, and seemingly fearless vulnerability we all find attractive about you, you are keeping a secret from us! ...or we are just getting it all wrong!
That said, I for one, don't see you as a particularly vein person, but we don't get to see or understand outside of your openness. What you think of yourself is mostly vailed in your mind. So, (direct question), are you a vein person, hiding your vanity from us all? I suspect not but still I have a need to ask.
You are not a worm of any family or phylum I know of. Begging the question: "Do you think your lifew S H O U L D be better than it is? If so, are you certain it is NOT your vanity telling you that someone else you know has a better life than you, so only a 'spineless worm' would put up with the miserable life you have? Really! Who says your life is so bad? Your 'reallity check' or is it your 'vanity' talking?
These kinds of protests that our lives are 'BAD' and must be changed, seldom accomplish anything but more strife! This is vailed complaining, and you know what my standard line is with complainers; "I hear and understand your complaint. Now, what do you want?"
I'm always only a couple of paces away, right by your side!
Rod
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