Posted by alexandra_k on January 6, 2005, at 5:15:02
In reply to Re: I think...., posted by Dinah on January 6, 2005, at 4:05:59
> He helped me immensely with my OCD with CBT. And not just anyone could have done that because I dislike CBT a lot. He had to spoonfeed it to me, with a lot of reframing, and a lot of validation.
I agree completely that 'not just anyone could have done that'. I disagree that he is the only person in the world who could have done that, though.
> Well, he just doesn't seem that deep. When I'm dealing with day to day stuff, he's fine. He props me up and keeps me going. But if I'm working on deeper stuff, you guys come up with much better insight than he does. I often bring babble stuff to him.There are more of us to offer loads of stuff for you to take whatever may resonate.
> He won't allow me to have more than one therapist. He's ok with an adjunct short term therapist to do something he doesn't do, with a limited scope and purpose. I haven't liked any of the adjunct therapists, though, and have never gotten very far with them.It is hard to find a good therapist. It can also take a bit of time to figure out if they are going to be good for you or not. Sometimes the ones that drive you a bit bananas turn out to be ok. Not the invalidating ones, though, or not for me at any rate.
Lots of therapists won't let their clients see another therapist at the same time. Something about it 'confusing' the client. One therapist saying one thing and another therapist saying another...
I personally think it has more to do with turf encroachment.
I think that if you told him that you would like to work on your dependency / attachment issues (with him) and that he wasn't really helping you progress with that and so you figured that someone else may be able to better help you there simply in virtue of being someone else (and not in virtue of being a better therapist or anything like that) - then you may be able to bring him around. If he realises that you will never choose someone else over him if it comes to that and he also realises that he is not in a position to help you with this issue then ethically he should allow you to see someone else to help you with that. It isn't beyond his level of expertise because his level of training or anything like that, it is just beyond his power to do anything because he has become the object of the problem. If he can't understand any of this, then I would be seriously worried about just who it is that is getting their needs met in that theraputic relationship. If he still insists, well could you go see someone else regardless (without his knowledge)? I have done that before...
> Also, the state of the mental health community is incredibly poor around here.Yes, it can be hard to find a good therapist. If you start working with someone else as well though (to kind of suss them out) and you seem to be getting on with them ok, well then that might be the time to broach the real issue. To tell that therapist the stuff you have been telling us. They may decide that it is ok for you to continue doing that and continue seeing them both at once.
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