Posted by Dinah on January 6, 2005, at 4:05:59
In reply to I think...., posted by Dinah on January 5, 2005, at 20:59:46
I'd never think of leaving him, of course.
He helped me immensely with my OCD with CBT. And not just anyone could have done that because I dislike CBT a lot. He had to spoonfeed it to me, with a lot of reframing, and a lot of validation.
And I don't *think* this is fallout from idealization. I don't think I ever idealized his therapeutic skills. I used to think he spouted pop-psych stuff and sounded like Stuart Smalley. He's quit doing that with me, but...
Well, he just doesn't seem that deep. When I'm dealing with day to day stuff, he's fine. He props me up and keeps me going. But if I'm working on deeper stuff, you guys come up with much better insight than he does. I often bring babble stuff to him.
Sometimes I just get frustrated with something like that dream. He just glossed over everything except that I had seen him at the post office and noticed he was a man. If it was just that once, but it's not. I suppose I could say that he forces me to come to my own conclusions, but...
So I tend to get frustrated with him when I'm trying to work on a deeper level.
He won't allow me to have more than one therapist. He's ok with an adjunct short term therapist to do something he doesn't do, with a limited scope and purpose. I haven't liked any of the adjunct therapists, though, and have never gotten very far with them.
He'd be ok with me seeing a family therapist or a EMDR therapist or a biofeedback therapist or a hypnotherapist or a sex therapist. But they'd have to draw lines first. He would quit seeing me if I started to see two therapists at once. He's firm on that. Says he doesn't work that way.
He'd also be angry with this thread. He thinks he's competent to treat me. He reminds me of the years he spent working with a psychiatrist who specialized in dissociative disorders.
I know he doesn't read this board, and won't see this thread, but it makes me a bit nervous even to discuss his shortcomings. Not that I don't know he has them.
Also, the state of the mental health community is incredibly poor around here. More so than many areas. If I lived in New York or California, I'd probably be able to find a well trained therapist should I ever decide to look for one, which I won't. Because he's not perfect (not by a long shot) but he's my mommy.
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