Posted by alexandra_k on January 6, 2005, at 2:24:18
In reply to I think...., posted by Dinah on January 5, 2005, at 20:59:46
I think that while you may feel like you would be completely devistated were you not to see him anymore that there are other ways of being. I do not think that this is something that you can come to really see or properly believe just by saying it over and over though. I think this is something that would have to be learned by experience.
I like Emmy's suggestion about starting up with someone new while continuing to see your old therapist. You see him a couple of times a week but aim to get back down to one a week again eventually - when you are feeling a bit better, right? Well in that case seeing him once a week and seeing someone else once a week wouldn't be seeing him any the less.
You might get attached to the other therapist which wouldn't make seeing him less feel so hard. You might be able to take brief 'holidays' from your current one and feel ok.You might be able to see someone who could help show you that with an improved social network the absense of any one particular person is not the end of the world. The interdependent self can still have its needs met.
But if it is something that needs to be learned by experience then some different input is required to help you learn that. I do understand that this is really hard for you which is why I am thinking about breaking it down into small steps and taking it real slow.
One day you won't be able to see him anymore. It would be terrific if you could feel okay about that before that day arrives.
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