Posted by daisym on January 6, 2005, at 0:35:31
In reply to I think...., posted by Dinah on January 5, 2005, at 20:59:46
I have to wonder if you might be thinking this because you are in great pain right now and he can't fix that for you. The grief you must be feeling is so painful and soul-seering...it can make you question so many things. There are statistics about how many people get divorced, move or quit jobs after the death of a parent or child. The need to move, to do something, anything, different, is huge. Plus, you feel different and that makes everything and everyone around you feel different too.
I also can't help but wonder if the loss of your dad isn't causing you to wonder (consciously or unconsciously) if you aren't vulnerable to another loss by your attachment. It would scare me tons. (It DOES scare me tons!)
I don't think this is the time to make any life changes. And given your attachment to your therapist (who DOES have wonderful support skills), changing right now would be a huge stress. I think there is value in the idea of looking at adding a psychologist to your team, or perhaps a psychodynamic group of some kind. But wait a little while while you are grieving.
I also want to echo everyone else by saying that you aren't "incurable" whatever that means. You've talked about your temperment and responses to stress as biologically based. Even if that is true, potential change exists for everyone. I think it would be important to ask yourself if you want to be pushed or if you "just" want support. There is nothing wrong with that, you know?
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