Posted by Dinah on January 6, 2005, at 3:48:09
In reply to Wanting to be depressed, posted by fallsfall on January 5, 2005, at 7:07:59
Falls, I know you've been so much better with this therapist. What he's doing works for you. I also know that either he's changed or your perception of him has changed so that he doesn't say things so abruptly anymore.
I would never argue with success.
Maybe he's such a good therapist that he could ascertain that this was something you could tolerate and even needed. And he *was* there for you to help you process what he had said.
So I do understand the dialectics here. What he said hurt and made you feel like you were left on your own to deal with something you didn't understand with insufficient data to help you understand it. (Which may be why you want to give your daughter sufficient data.) But it was something that on another level was empowering to you and made you think, and in the end helped you.
Do I have that right? If I don't have it quite right, I don't mind being corrected. I think what you are saying is important enough that I want to understand it, even if I'm not quite there yet.
There's nothing wrong with dialectics. :) Two contradictory things can be true at once. And I think it's possible to try to address both of them in therapy.
Hopefully he'd also realize that such an approach wouldn't work for everyone, and that he would tailor his approach for someone who just couldn't deal with unvarnished, unpolished, and unbeveled truths. :)
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