Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2004, at 20:12:12
In reply to Re: Bringing PB into therapy » Dinah, posted by Toph on December 24, 2004, at 8:24:39
Most everyone can be some or all of those things from time to time. It's just part of being human. Unfortunately, natural consequences for being human are also part of life. That doesn't mean you're unwelcome. I find it hard to believe that anyone who makes themselves vulnerable by revealing their struggles over this type of issue could be unwelcome.
I doubt there's anyone who hasn't felt ignored or criticized on Babble from time to time if they're here long enough. Heaven knows how often I've been criticized. Sometimes openly, sometimes not so openly. Like I said, Babble had to come to therapy, because I got so upset about Babble.
I think that's another reason Babble's been good for me. I used to feel like if I was just *good* enough, no one would be mad at me. Now I figure there's no way to be good enough that no one will be mad at me. There's no way I can explain myself so very clearly that there is no way that someone can read something I didn't intend into what I wrote. If I can, I try to mend fences. Sometimes that isn't possible.
Ok, I admit I still have some problems with that - and even more problems when two people that I like don't seem to see the wonderful qualities in each other that I see. But it's a work in progress.
Babble can be a relatively safe environment to work on these issues - especially if you feel safe bringing Babble to therapy and can get expert input into your patterns of interaction.
Ok, now I'd better stop, because typing that made me realize I'm presently being guilty of something that my therapist thinks is an unfortunate interpersonal tendency of mine. :)
Oh well, a work in progress.
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