Posted by messadivoce on November 23, 2004, at 2:48:18
Hi everybody,
I'm a newby and I would appreciate anyone's thoughts about this. I am a college student who sought therapy last year to deal with my depression and anxiety. I was assigned at random to a pre-doc intern at my universtiy clinic.
I grew very close to him and we developed a close and intimate professional relationship. I know there was a lot of transference flying around in there. I knew that he cared about me very deeply and when the school year ended it was very hard to terminate. He had been preparing me for this reality, but not seeing him has been the hardest thing I've experienced in awhile. I cannot go back to him b/c he is doing his post-doc fellowship at another university 60 miles away.
He often reassured me that he would not forget me when we were done with therapy. He told me that I was welcome to call him if I wanted to hear his voice or e-mail him as well. I have tried to have some regular contact with him this year and his responses have been very cold. Basically has told me that he feels like it would blur the boundaries and make things confusing. But what is confusing is how he's going back on all the things he said to me! It makes me wonder if I should have trusted him that much.
My depression has subsided and things in my life are going well. However I'm back in therapy, trying to deal with this tremdous loss and move on. The T I have now is good, and she's spoken to my former T about my case, but I don't really have the answers about why the fast turnaround. It hurts so much sometimes. My current T and I have agreed that there was probably work we didn't get to do together which is making the separation so hard.
Does anyone have any thoughts or experiences with post-treatment contact? And BTW, you all seem like a great and supportive bunch of people.
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thread:419213
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