Posted by terrics on November 27, 2004, at 9:18:37
In reply to communication after termination--my story, posted by messadivoce on November 23, 2004, at 2:48:18
Sorry things became such a mess. I find therapists who do not have strong enough boundaries fall into a bind when therapy terminates. I think they mean what they say, but then realize they made a mistake regarding boundaries.
I have a therapist now who has very strict boundaried and I have learned that this is a great help for a therapeutic relationship. I have learned to like her after much fussing. We did have to discuss the boundary thing because she came off as COLD. She took a 3 week vacation and never apologized for hurting me, but she has changed her ways without jeopardizing her boundaries. She shares a little which makes her more human. My previous therapist shared EVERYTHING. Sometimes she joked about her paying me instead of v-a-v. I know Lots of her history; her family, friends, vacation spots, mental illnesses, etc. I was in love with her which made me sick. I only switched therapists so I could be involved in a DBT program. Between the 2 therapists I would say that the cool one is much better and safer for me. In the end though my first therapist and I became friends...now we can rely on each other. Maybe this has nothing to do with your problem, but trust me, it is too difficult to become so close to someone whom you will most likely end contact with...Don't forget too that he was not all that experienced. terrics
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