Posted by sunny10 on November 5, 2004, at 10:54:32
In reply to Re: co-dependency, posted by Larry Hoover on November 5, 2004, at 9:35:53
go ahead, Lar, use my name, too-- I think you've got it in one.
The whole unconditional love feeling "distant" sounds sooooooo familiar, I'm SHOCKED that I think I didn't recognize it when it happened. My SO hardly ever asks me how my day at work went and seems surprised when I ask about his. His response on last Friday was, "it's the end of the month- I'm a mechanic- how do you think my day was?" I didn't see that it's possible that he was thinking, "you know what I do for a living and every day is about the same- did you need me to recount my every action or do you want to recount your every action on a regular day?- how odd and unnecessary"...
Because my ex-husb wanted me to recount my entire day to maintain his "control"- I must have subconsciously been confused because my SO doesn't ask the same of me and I thought it was a sort of relationship ritual at the end of the day.
Or, was I originally correct and he IS just a tad distant... Jeez, now I'm confusing myself again..
-sunny10
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