Posted by daisym on September 2, 2004, at 18:58:25
In reply to Yikes! I'm late!, posted by Aphrodite on September 2, 2004, at 11:00:24
>>>However, the adult, who foolishly thinks she's just fine, has to bring them. My T, then, has the difficult balancing act of helping the children without offending the adult me or causing me to flee.
Exactly! We talked about this some more today. Because the adult still thinks it is really dangerous to let someone be this important to you. But he reminded me (again) that I have a strong core which has been gradually been adding supports over the past few months. So even though I don't think so, he isn't indispensible. But he acknowledge that my kid self doesn't believe that and doesn't really need to. Sort of like when kids think they will never want to move out.
I'm interested in how we get our adult selves to not be so harsh with the younger selves. I've been told to try to remember that "she" was just a child and couldn't do anything to protect herself. But I find it so hard to believe. And I'm pretty tired of all her sadness.
We also agreed today to take a break from the memories for a while. So we didn't talk about them specifically yesterday or today...and I don't see him again until Wednesday. I can feel my youngerself quietly freaking out...but I'm shushing her. (and no, she can't call either...)
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