Posted by pantt on September 6, 2004, at 11:22:28
In reply to Re: Are you ever afraid your therapists will die?, posted by lucy stone on September 4, 2004, at 18:02:26
I don't think he has any kind of plan. He doesn't have a partner. He said if he died his receptionist would call me and I could go the funeral if I wanted to ( I asked him about that). He laughed when I asked if I could throw myself on the coffin weeping and scream at his wife that he really loved me best and that sort of ended the conversation. I think talking about his own death made him uncomfortable as is natural but I'm a pretty primitive person sometimes
I'll probably die first although he's older.
He'll see me as long as I want no matter what the money situation. He was criticized for that by someone I saw briefly but I don't think that is a boundary crossing really. It's just always been that way. I don't think I'm being infantalized I all ready am a huge confused finacially unendowed infant. If that changes I will be glad to pay him.
> I am sometimes afraid that my T will die, not so much so now as in the beginning. Then, I used to be terrifed when he went on vacation, that he would fall off the mountain or drown in the river or something (he fly fishes). We would talk about it, and he said that if something happened to him I should immediately call his partner, that she would know what to do to help me. Does your T have a plan for his patients if something did happen to him? Maybe you should talk to him about this. If he knew there was a plan to have someone care for you if something happened to him it might make you feel a bit better. The money is a harder issue in some ways. After all, that is how they make their living and supplying therapy for free for specific patients is a boundadry crossing. I have asked my T what would happen if I could no longer afford to see him, and says that we would work something out...not sure what that means, though.
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