Posted by gardenergirl on September 2, 2004, at 9:49:47
In reply to Re: Does your Therapist understand how important they » DaisyM, posted by Pfinstegg on September 1, 2004, at 22:36:39
Pfinstegg,
> She doesn't speak yet, but she does speak in dreams. In them, she has rearranged the analyst's office, bringing in her favorite toys and animals from her childhood, changed the couch to a different location, etc. Then she said, "OK! Now I'm at home. Now I can tell you things, and it will help me a lot". And she does, a bit more, each day.That is such a sweet image. Thank you for sharing it.
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> I never thought of myself as having any kind of ego state or dissociative disorder! It's so easy to have one and not know it! Do you think other people here might have them, but that their therapists don't work in that way, and so they don't find out? I've always wondered about that, as I think it's just you and me who write about it.I had an experience recently when I was meditating about a metaphor for my pain. It included a volcano (don't ask!) and as I was sitting there, all of a sudden, my five year old self came up and tried to pull me away, saying "You'll get in trouble." I did the same thing you did...I sat with her and stroked her hair and told her things would be okay. I told my T about it because it was a bit freaky to me. I was concerned that it meant that my ego was fragmenting rather than getting stronger. He never mentioned disorder and actually believed it was good progress. That I was able to parent the child me that did not get that caring and nurturing in the past.
Now he doesn't work to try to talk to her, although he did mention we could analyze why it was that age, why she looked like she did, etc. But he focused on the self-soothing aspect and seemed pleased.
Warmly,
gg
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