Posted by Dinah on September 2, 2004, at 11:15:26
In reply to Yikes! I'm late!, posted by Aphrodite on September 2, 2004, at 11:00:24
I'm hoping the subject isn't closed. :)
"However, the adult, who foolishly thinks she's just fine, has to bring them. "
That statement made me snort diet coke out my nose. It's soooo much the way I think. :)
I was trying unsuccessfully last night to say some of what you said. I finally gave up without posting. I understand that therapists have to be careful about creating ego states. But if something already exists, ignoring it or treating it like it's a shameful thing can't possibly be helpful. If my therapist had refused to speak to my emotional self, or punished me overtly or covertly for speaking, I would have stopped speaking, but I wouldn't have disappeared. It probably would have been immensely harmful in that I would have gotten pretty rage-filled and self destructive at this new sign that I wasn't acceptable.
As it was, I had to talk around the subject for years because my therapist (tho he didn't say anything) was clearly uncomfortable with the concept. I think he was afraid of creating alters or escalating the number or something. I had to pretty directly confront him with how difficult his reluctance was making therapy for me before I was able to be really open with him. So he clearly didn't create anything in me. But thank G*d he didn't try to "discourage" me either.
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