Posted by Dinah on September 1, 2004, at 22:42:42
In reply to Does your Therapist understand how important they, posted by daisym on September 1, 2004, at 20:17:56
I think mine does, finally. It took him a long time to understand it fully. But I'm reasonably sure he now does.
But then I didn't tell him as directly as you did, and I didn't tell him all in one session. I'm not sure I ever said it directly. But I said it indirectly often enough for him to understand it (finally).
Keep in mind that my therapist is nowhere near as nurturing and supportive as yours is. It's difficult for me to talk about the depth of my attachment to him because I always had some idea that it would scare him. And G*d's honest truth, I think it did at first. Or it would have (even more than it actually did) if I hadn't danced around it a lot. He must have gotten some supervision or personal therapy or something, because he seems ok with it now.
And now I'll confess my awful secret. Sometimes when *he* mentions how important he is to me, the rational side of me, the grown up side, giggles at his self importance. Which isn't at all fair, since it's true. And since the rational side of me has cringed enough when *I* have told him how important he is to me (however indirectly I've done it). Maybe it just sounds funny to hear, even if it's true.
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