Posted by DaisyM on September 1, 2004, at 21:59:27
In reply to Re: Does your Therapist understand how important they » daisym, posted by Pfinstegg on September 1, 2004, at 21:36:34
I know exactly what you mean about needing to hear, "I'm still here" over and over again. And the smallest whisper of "promise?" always slips out and he always very seriously answers "promise!" So very young, isn't it?
He asked me today if I took out his picture last night when I was having such a hard time. I was surprised and said, "no, I put it away." He said I needed to let "her" (my younger self) see it, hold it, as much as she needs to. That it was OK with him for her to want to do that. That is why he gave it to her.
I think you are right, the fear that unfolds with these memories is fresh and real. And I'm terrified of getting into trouble for talking about all of this, at the same time NEEDING to talk about all this. We talked today about this war going on between the adult and child parts and how much both needed him, but needed different things. He said again that he can handle the push/pull. He told the adult she was doing an amazing job hanging in there, that most people would have quit therapy by now. He told the child it was totally OK to be weepy in therapy, that he knew she was scared but that he would take care of her. It was really important that both of these parts heard him today. Really, really important.
Are you able to let your younger self talk to your adult self yet? It is an interesting exercise.
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