Posted by Lonely on August 23, 2004, at 20:53:53
In reply to Re: Therapy commitment » shrinking violet, posted by Dinah on August 23, 2004, at 20:26:00
You've mentioned something else that has bothored me a lot about "therapy." Really, I appreciate reading these things because they're sort've heling me to formulate what I like and don't like and hopefully that will help me in the future.
One of my greatest irritations is to tell a T something no matter how minor or major and have them act patronizing or condescending ... and that's quite often.
For example, the therapist who died was having some trouble getting paid by the insurance. I told her I would (after going through channels) write to the Attorney General complaining of fraud and deceit on the part of the insurance company. I later found out she didn't believe that I would do it and of course she really made a nasty out of herself and that hampered our relationship. Later she also told me that people often say they're going to do something and then don't. She was amazed that I did - more than once!
Another time, (maybe this has some humor) ... after the "T" died, I saw another therapist and while we were facing each other talking I noticed a little spider on the back of her chair on her left, not far from her head. I didn't want to blurt out that there was a spider right by her head because I didn't want to frighten her so I tried to act very soothing, leaned forward in the chair, and prefaced it by saying everything was alright except ... there was just this tiny little spider on her chair and I pointed to it. Before it sank into her head that there was a spider beside her she had the very condescending body language and attitude of a T who thinks their patient is psycho (and I suppose seeing a spider might be interpreted that way although they're very common in this climate). (by-the-way, I'm not psycho.) Suddenly, though, she lept up, trying to keep her cool, got a tissue and with some revulsion got the spider and threw the tissue away. Then she tried to return to the T "stance" - the ol' control thing.
>So I have a fair amount of faith in my >intuition - especially face to face where I can >*read* the moods better. He used to think it was >schizotypal of me to think I had that ability, >but when time after time after time I accurately >assessed his emotion (if not the cause), he quit >saying that. He also started being really >honest. lol.
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