Posted by Dinah on August 23, 2004, at 20:26:00
In reply to Re: Therapy commitment » Dinah, posted by shrinking violet on August 22, 2004, at 11:53:14
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> >> Obviously, some people are destructive, and I hope I'd never work on a relationship with a destructive person.
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> So how do you know if a T is destructive?Hmmm... Tough one.
My therapist says I have an uncanny knack for picking people and situations that are over-all good for me. And I'd say that is true. So I have a fair amount of faith in my intuition - especially face to face where I can *read* the moods better. He used to think it was schizotypal of me to think I had that ability, but when time after time after time I accurately assessed his emotion (if not the cause), he quit saying that. He also started being really honest. lol.
So, I suppose if experience has shown that you can accurately separate those people who are good for you from those who aren't, following your intuition (perhaps with some input from others) is probably the way to go.
But if experience has shown you that you (global you here, not specific) can't accurately separate those who are good for you from those who are destructive I just don't know.
From time to time I think periodic third party supervision would be in order. Sort of a peer review system. Every xxx (year for long term therapy clients? three months for short?), a trained supervisor would assess the situation.
But then I say NO WAY would I invite someone else into my therapy room.
I suppose I do feel reassured when I happen across positive feedback from other professionals about my therapeutic relationship, though. Most of us have pdocs as well as therapists. Maybe they could take on some supervisory responsibility.
Although I would still say NO WAY am I inviting my blank slate pdoc into my therapy situation.
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