Posted by BigFish on August 23, 2004, at 18:38:20
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff, posted by Susan47 on August 23, 2004, at 18:26:21
> The reason I couldn't bring up the looks with my therapist is because I felt like a homely child and an outcast all my childhood and adolescence. So as an adult woman, I've always tried to be as physically perfect as I had the energy for. So if I asked my therapist if his look was about me or not, and he said *No* for whatever reason, it would feel like a rejection.
> Especially in light of the fact that I thought he was the cat's meow right from the get-go.
> If I *knew* or *thought* truly that I were attractive I don't think I would've had a problem asking him. If I knew or thought that he found me attractive, I would've been able to ask him. Can you ask your therapist if he finds you attractive? Bring it right out into the open. What do you think will happen?I can really relate to what you're saying! I have serious self doubts and I'm scared of his reaction. What if he laughs "You? What makes you think I might find you attractive?" There are moments when I feel he has no empathy, and what if this will be one of them. I'll be crushed.
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