Posted by Rigby on September 1, 2004, at 10:09:52
In reply to Re: Dumb question » Rigby, posted by crushedout on August 31, 2004, at 21:18:34
It's an odd situation,for sure, but not sure why it makes you queasy. Hmmmm...
Anyway, although there are parallels with me and my therapist I tend to think that it's about me vs. she and I. I guess what I mean to say is that the process of therapy should open you up and I suppose I'm just more open to attractions from either gender.
My concern has been whether or not I'm getting good advise and good therapy due to these parallels and supposed similarities in personality. When I got a whiff of her screwing up her boundaries again a few weeks ago it made me think more than twice about how she may over-identify with me.
I'm not in love with my therapist and I don't feel that I'm in a sexual relationship with a man due to her influence or past history--I just don't see that. Maybe therapy with her triggered feelings in me from way back but, again, this is about me and if the feelings/emotions weren't mine and there to begin with there would be nothing to trigger.
I guess this is all to say that maybe your therapy is working and that you're just more open or okay with guys (vs. something going on relative to you and your relationship with your therapist.) Anyway, I hope it's the former and not the latter.
> I hope it's ok if I jump in at this late hour. I've found this whole thread rather compelling and disturbing (so disturbing, I must add, that I haven't been able to read much of it at a time, and still haven't finished it, so forgive me if I say stuff that's already stale). I'm not exactly sure why I find it so disturbing, but that's not the point.
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> I have trouble thinking it's a coincidence, this parallel. And it's odd (to me) that I'm experiencing such a similar parallel in my own life. Of course, I don't know if my T was ever a lesbian (I would guess not) but I know *I* was, and now I'm involved in a pretty serious relationship with a guy for the first time in 13 years. I don't think it's a coincidence for me that this is happening and that my T is straight. I dunno. It's all very mystifying and disconcerting to me to tell you the truth.
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> > > Okay, in light of what you said about your therapist being lesbian for a while, then marrying a guy, that changes everything. Now everything you've said about her therapeutic relationship with you and your feelings around that seems more focussed.
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