Posted by Susan47 on August 23, 2004, at 18:26:21
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff » Susan47, posted by BigFish on August 23, 2004, at 18:09:45
The reason I couldn't bring up the looks with my therapist is because I felt like a homely child and an outcast all my childhood and adolescence. So as an adult woman, I've always tried to be as physically perfect as I had the energy for. So if I asked my therapist if his look was about me or not, and he said *No* for whatever reason, it would feel like a rejection.
Especially in light of the fact that I thought he was the cat's meow right from the get-go.
If I *knew* or *thought* truly that I were attractive I don't think I would've had a problem asking him. If I knew or thought that he found me attractive, I would've been able to ask him. Can you ask your therapist if he finds you attractive? Bring it right out into the open. What do you think will happen?
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