Posted by shrinking violet on August 15, 2004, at 21:00:20
In reply to Re: Are relationships with T's real, or not?, posted by steelmagnolia25 on August 14, 2004, at 21:32:29
>> Now that we've been apart for a few weeks, I seem to appreciate those words even more. I recall at the time I was thinking to myself, somewhat cynically, "So you can just turn off certain feelings?" But now I truly appreciate that, in my own best interest, he maintained those boundaries even though I was so eager to cross them (not even sexually -- I would enjoy just being his friend!). And I don't consider the fact that he held back some of his personal feelings for the sake of therapy as something that renders the relationship "unreal." It just ensured that we had the optimal therapy relationship...KWIM?
I think I do. I'm glad he was able to comfort you and he helped to make leaving him easier. I still can't think about leaving my T, which will happen fairly soon (premature termination due to my graduating). I know I'll be a crumpled mess.
I'm not sure whether my T holds back anything.....maybe she does, I don't know. Sometimes I think she crosses the boundaries and does/says/feels things she shouldnt let herself given the context, but that's mostly speculation on my part. And even if she does, I think we can both handle it. Besides, I'm pretty screwed up now...I doubt she could do more damage! ;-P
Thanks. :)
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