Posted by Dinah on August 14, 2004, at 13:10:57
In reply to Are relationships with T's real, or not?, posted by shrinking violet on August 14, 2004, at 12:49:07
I hope gardenergirl doesn't mind, but I'm going to give a link to a post she wrote me that clarified this topic so much with me that it almost instantly stopped being an obsessive thought for me. I now stop and think in any given situation about the framework she laid out, and I can usually work out how I feel or what's wrong.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040303/msgs/321437.html
But, I have to say I worry a teensy bit about therapists who say those sort of things to their clients. It may well be true, but maybe it isn't necessary for them to say so because there's a possibility that it will cause feelings in the clients that are not realistically going to be fulfilled.
It's hard for me to say from my vantage point, because my therapist and I clearly have absolutely nothing in common personally but an interest in theology. We'd never be people who would hang out in our real lives. I really don't think that bothers me at all. It may make things a lot clearer and easier to separate. So it's not something that has come up in my therapy and maybe I don't have a clear understanding of the benefits of hearing that a therapist thinks a client is special...
poster:Dinah
thread:377579
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040812/msgs/377593.html