Posted by Lonely on August 19, 2004, at 10:59:34
In reply to Re: question for lonely, posted by Lulula on August 19, 2004, at 6:34:11
My therapist had a terrible ravaging disease she acquired through a blood transfusion. Ironically, my husband has the same disease but not as severely. The treatment was obviously making her very sick - tremors, memory loss, spaceiness, extreme fatigue, dehydration and probably many more. I know she had had many years of ill health from a serious digestive disorder (I've had a much milder version myself). She never admitted much of the pain and suffering she had but it was obvious to me and I knew a little bit through a mutual friend.
Yes, it is the therapist's job to ease my pain, but I think that in the extreme case I just described that sometimes things are a bit different, in fact. She was always concerned about "boundaries" and I was so frustrated that I was quite rude. It was hard to show the compassion I felt when it seemed like the rules of the game weren't exactly functional. Perhaps she should have helped me to someone else or admitted what she was going through; as it was, it was just sort've like tip-toeing around with a lot of denial.
> In your post, last sentence, you say "ease her pain ..." who are you referring to? Your therapist? It is the T's job to ease your pain and not visa versa.
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