Posted by 64bowtie on August 7, 2004, at 15:34:15
In reply to I would be hurt if those posts were directed to me » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on August 7, 2004, at 10:09:23
> So I am asking you not to direct posts of this nature to me. I don't come to this board for therapy.
><<< Gotcha loud and clear.
(((DaisyM))) did say I was "very wrong" and I didn't protest as her being uncivil. I tried to clarify and point that we were talking about two different "theys"... always a problem when employing pronouns. My anticedent to "they" was the people she still blamed for continually hurting her, who are no longer there to hurt her.
I am honestly not telling her to shrug her shoulders and go on. I am not committing any therapy of any kind. I am pointing out the falasy of philosophical logic that if you still hurt, the person who originated the pain is still causing the pain. Can't! They are no longer doing it, here in the here and now. So, I bet a therapist could help her turn the corner and see that she is doing the pain to herself, no matter why. I'm not saying what the next step is for her, but I do relate what the next step was for me when I got that big AAH-HAH! for myself. Is that me committing an act of therapy by accident? Let me know. The model works well in 12 step meetings but may not be appropriate here. My guess is that since I relate the etiology of my personal lesson, I'm not overstepping my bounds. I want only what's best for (((DaisyM))), and to be accepted by her in that light.
I apologise if I was toooo direct. I'll continue to find a good balance.
Rod
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