Posted by 64bowtie on August 7, 2004, at 2:42:32
In reply to Re: Oh » 64bowtie, posted by Aphrodite on August 6, 2004, at 19:32:08
>...but as a sufferer of repeated traumas, I need a trustworthy and safe professional to guide me.>
><<< I quote: "The pain is real. The misery and suffering are optional!"
Ask your therapist what good it is that you purpetrate all this on yourself. Are you ever better off getting to the bottom of the feelings? You relive the story(ies) as though you can't let go. I know this because, this is me 20 years ago. Could you be reliving the pain and suffering as a habit gone bad?
I have asked those very questions about myself to many individuals and many groups. I was once told I'm not supposed to ask questions like that. Hmmmm.... Wrongo! Its my life! I'll ask any dang question I want to about my life!
Dredging through the swamp may seem like "foundation building" but it is ever only more and more and more dredging. BTW, foundations are best built on dry land, not the swamp (of our unresolved internal conflicts).
Remember, we relive the story about what happened. Norman Bates in the movie "Psycho" found this frustrating so he re-enacted what happened to get the true sense of the drama-trauma. Is attaching so much meaning to a mere story worth all that re-suffering?
The change can actually be sudden, if you want. Perhaps therapy is best for you until that moment when it is no longer relevant. I always hope for sooner (irrelevant) and never forever (relevant).
Rod
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