Posted by starlight on July 30, 2004, at 14:32:32
In reply to Re: The Experiment Continues ? starlight, posted by daisym on July 29, 2004, at 18:25:18
I think the other thing that would be difficult for me is that I would feel like I were paying him to be dependent on him rather than him being a friend and willing to give of himself without renumeration. That to me would feel superficial.
I'm dependent on people and trust them. My husband, my boss, my friends and coworkers, my bandmates and others. They support me and I support them in many ways, but like I said, if I get hurt I'll go the more superficial route to protect myself. And it takes a long time for me to trust.
I've continually been uprooted in my life and the last major event was going through Hurricane Andrew. I was in my house and lost everything, even walked outside during the eye of the storm to assess the damage before the second half of the storm kicked in. I learned alot from that, mainly that things are only temporary. I think that has something to do with my 'investment' approach.
I'm glad that approach is working for you. I'm amazed really as it seems so unusual to me. But like I said, paying for it would make it seem superficial. It's kind of like he's being a friend and supporting you, but what happens the moment you can't see him any longer? Like he gets in a car wreck (god forbid) or something. Who do you depend on then? What happens to your core?
I'm not trying to be the devil's advocate or anything, I've just never heard of that approach.
starlight
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