Posted by Susan J on June 18, 2004, at 12:19:25
In reply to Re: Rock vs Hard Place » tabitha, posted by fallsfall on June 18, 2004, at 6:27:17
Hey, I'm late in the game on your thread, here, so forgive me if I repeat something someone's already said.
I'm so sorry that group therapy was awful a few days ago. I've never been so I don't know much about it. But two things struck me. Is it helpful/OK for the woman to tell you she's angry/jealous of you without having at least some idea *why?* I mean, it seems like it hurt you WAY MORE than is permissible if it was an attempt for the other woman to understand her own feelings. I don't think ANYONE should have to suffer like you did.
And about being alone. God, can I relate. I've been very lonely recently and am practically dying to have a boyfriend or something like that. perhaps not the healthiest, but whatever. But one thing I wanted to tell you that I don't think you are *choosing* to be alone, and so of course you are *not* alright with it. Maybe you are like me, though. I personally don't want to spend time with just anyone for the heck of it. Being with certain people can be even worse than being alone. Ideally, I want to spend time with people I care about or at least compatible with. And if there aren't that many people around you like that right now, that might be why you are choosing your own company over that of others.
Does that make any sense? For some people, just having a warm body around might be all they need. For others, it's the quality of the interaction that matters.
Plus, daggit, it's HARD meeting compatible people in this world. Really, really hard. Sometimes people with families close by just don't see that because they havent had to exercise the social skills in a while to make new friends.
Anyway, I think you are perfectly normal, and have every right to feel hurt/mad/sad about group therapy. I hope you are feeling better today...
Thinking about you,
Susan
poster:Susan J
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